I'll speak generally here, because the lessons I've learned from my near 35 years of experience are mainly universal, and not necessarily from within the confines of my own family. Some have been observed through other close relationships in my personal life , which is to say, they aren't my stories to tell.

However, if I feel a lesson is beneficial to this community, I'll share it , just in a respectful way. The last thing I'm out to do is hurt anyone's feelings or speak out of turn. That being said, I have plenty of experience on the matter at hand, in many different facets and forms. While I may be nonspecific at times, understand it's out of empathy, not shame or fear.

Real substance abuse problems absolutely tear families apart over entire lifetimes if families allow it to go unaddressed for that long. And many do. Many do because they don't know what else to do, other than what they've always done. Be it drinking or a drug. If they’re the user or acting like they don't know what the user is doing or if they’re the loved one.

It not only tears apart entire close families, but it does so from the inside out, in the most merciless, unforgiving, and ugly of fashions imaginable. Addiction and alcoholism don't care about you or your family's feelings. They don't care what happens to your wife, husband, mother, father, brother, sister, or kids.

They [addicts] lie because they think it is the truth that will crush their loved ones, but again, just the opposite is true. While yes, lies or omitting certain truths may be easier in the moment or at first, they are never the real solution. I don't care who tells you otherwise or how they justify it, they can spin it any way that helps them sleep at night. Lies are never better.

I know from watching how lies and omitting truths destroy entire families, with the root almost always being a drink or a drug…

Brian Brewington  (webmd.com)

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Do you, or someone you know have already taken up drugs and alcohol and you’re concerned?

The following agencies/groups can be a real help.

Teen Challenge

Phone: (03) 5852 3777

Fresh Start

Recovery Programme
Helping Families With Addiction

Therapeutic Communities

for AOD dependencies

Therapeutic Community

Addiction, there is a way out!

NSW Therapeutic Community

Rescue – Restore – Rebuild

Alcoholics Anonymous

Clean Slate Clinic

SHARC-Oxford Houses

Sherwood Cliffs Rehab

Phone (02) 6649 2139

Remar Rehabilitation

Phone: (03) 5659-6307
Mobile: 0419 436 687


Phone: (07) 55 923 677

Seahaven Private – Rehabilitation

Phone: (03) 8738 4252 

Life International Counselling and Coaching

email: info @ lifeinternational.com.au

Womens Domestic Violence Crisis Centre

Phone: 24 Hours - 1800 015 188

Positive Lifestyle Counselling Services Dandenong

The Cyrene Centre

Suite 5, 49-54 Douglas Street, Noble Park 3174
Phone: (03) 9574 6355


7 Brunswick Street, Fitzroy 3065
Phone: (03)94956144

Living Springs Counselling Centre

Berwick Church of Christ

446 Centre Road, Berwick, Victoria, 3806
Phone: (03) 9702 1011

Pastor Larry Edwards Counselling

Dandenong Church of Christ

139 David Street, Dandenong, Victoria, 3175
Mobile: 0410 613 056

Total Wellbeing Centre

Suite 1 / 857 Doncaster Rd,
Doncaster East, Victoria, 3109
Phone: (03) 9855 9555

Woman's Domestic Violence Crisis

Phone:1800 015 188

Eagles Wings Rehabilitation Centre

Phone: (03) 5726 5060

DasWest Drug & Alcohol Services

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Odyssey House Victoria

Addiction Center

Alcohol Rehab

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Narcotics Anonymous Australia

Addiction Resources for North America